I Swinger?

Am I a swinger. Well, depends who you ask, but I'm not crazy about the word. Swinging's become a scene, a sex obsessed scene, trying to force something that's more fun when it just happens.

I guess I'm in an open relationship, but even that word has picked up a narrow meaning for most people.

My boyfriend and I take each situation as it comes. We get each others permission for each individual experience that might be outside of the normal rules of engagement.

In the rare case that I run into an impossibel to pass up situation, I might give my sweetie a call. "Hi, honey, um, a gorgeous woman just offered me a ride on her motorcycle and I'm pretty sure she means to take me out of phone range and have her way with me. What's that? Oh, yes, I will certainly tell you all about it when I get home. I love you too."

For the most part our polyamorous experiences are had together. It's us as a couple with a third person, or a few times with more people, though it's rare to find a party/orgy type scene that isn't revolting in the way that the singles scene is a turn off. When it happens though, wow, it's pretty amazing.

We did go to a swingers convention, once. It was a lame event full of pushy obnoxious people. We escaped to an area on the beach that hadn't been over run by horny car salesmen and their wives. Unfortunately another couple, also tired of the party that never stops had already claimed this retreat. In a completely non sexual, non slimey way they told us we were welcome to stay, and we did, sitting a respectable distance away.

After an hour or so they said goodnight and headed back to the hotel. We saw them at breakfast the next morning and asked if they'd like to share a table, if they didn't sit with us, 'The Others" would never stop trying to.

They had a seat and we bitched over coffee about the horrible convention. We spent the day together, hanging out, and eventually, when it was happened naturally, conversation did indeed turn to what we'd have liked to have found at this event. They were looking for the same kind of relaxed atmostphere we were looking for. We took dinner in their room that night, with some wine and we had a great, sexy time.

It made me want to put together an antiswinger swinger scene, and get it right. But that was a lot of effort for something that I got more enjoyment out of just being open to.

I will write out a story with more details of our time in that room with the other couple soon, I promise.

For now I'm off to wrap around my boyfriend and get some much needed sleep. I spent the whole day working on this damn site and I have much work still to do.